Fifty Shades

August 19, 2012 Fifty Shades

Fifty Shades of Grey

Fifty Shades of Frustration would be an appropriate title for the past few days.   I just started reading Fifty Shades of Grey, which is why I thought of that.   The EL James trilogy is all the rage these days.   The mildly erotic S&M romance has caused quite a stir, so I had to see what it was all about.

The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty

Fifty Shades of Darker is the 2nd book in the series, but the first book I read by EL James and I wasn’t impressed.   I thought that the Beauty Trilogy by Anne Rice was better.  The Story of O and Secretary were more straightforward BDSM that Fifty Shades.   Honestly, Fifty Shades promotes unhealthy relationships more than an alternative lifestyle.   It reminds me of Twilight.   What is up with the public embracing co-dependent relationships as normal—exciting even?  Are more relationships unhealthy than not these days?  How is it so relate-able? So popular?

Bad Behavior

Bad Behavior is the title of a collection of short stories by Mary Gaitskill.  One of the stories, “Secretary,” was made into a movie with Maggie Gyllenhaal in 2002.  Having enjoyed the quirky, cute movie on BDSM, I thought I’d check out the original story that inspired it.  Gaitskill’s writing is less sentimental than the movie, but still good.  Her exploration of sexuality is unapologetic and nonjudgmental.  The movie, however, went a step further in pushing toward an acceptance of the alternative life style.


I connected to the idea that Debby needed a partner who completely accepted and understood her to make her happy.  She had a perfectly good boyfriend and a perfectly healthy relationship, but it wasn’t enough.  Some might think she needed therapy to cure her of her submissive tendencies, but others realize that her needs are not necessarily unhealthy.  Bondage or Dominate and Submissive relationships are no longer considered symptoms of perversity or illness.

About carilynn27

Reading and writing and writing about reading are my passion. I've been keeping a journal since I was 14. I also write fiction and poetry. I published my first collection of short stories, "Radiant Darkness" in 2000. I followed that up with my first collection of poetry in 2001 called "Journey without a Map." In 2008, I published "Persephone's Echo" another collection of poetry. Since then I've also published Emotional Espionage, The Way The Story Ended, My Perfect Drug and Out There. I have my BA in English from The Ohio State University at Mansfield and my MA in English Lit from The University of North Carolina at Greensboro. I also have my Post BA Certificate in Women's Studies. I am the mother of two beautiful children. :-)
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