And Just Like That
And Just Like That the gals from Sex And The City have turned into The Golden Girls! Given all the differences between being 55 in 1985 and being 55 in 2022, perhaps we should call Carrie, Charlotte and Miranda The Silver Girls. Lol.
I’ve been watching reruns of The Golden Girls on Hulu and keeping up with the Sex And The City Reboot on HBO Max. Granted, the reboot is not as good as the original series, but it does provide some fascinating insights into aging in the 2020s.
In the late 1980s Blanche, Dorthy and Rose were in a new phase of their lives. After her husband died, Blanche needed roommates. Enter Dorothy and Rose. Dorthy was divorced and Rose was widowed. All three of them had children who were grown and out on their own. Some of their kids even had kids of their own. These Middle Aged women found friendship in each other in a time that would have otherwise been lonely for them.
In the 2020s Carrie has been widowed, but she is fine with living alone. She has the financial Independence to have her own apartment. Once Big bites the big one, she sells her old apartments and gets a brand new apartment.
Miranda is married and has nearly grown son who still lives with her. Like Miranda, Charlotte started her family later in life. She is still married and the mother of two teenagers. She is in the role that traditionally would have been filled by someone in their 30s. But in the past 30 some years, women have been able to put off childbearing. Science and society has given women more options over the years.
And the fashion! The Golden Girls dressed fashionably. But their fashion was always a downplayed version of what younger people were wearing. Clothes for women in their 40s, 50s and 60s were more modest. Although they were allowed to look pretty, they were not allowed to look youthful and sexy.
While The Golden Girls were still limited by the society they lived in, they were at least being acknowledged. Since Television began, women and middle aged people have largely been ignored. They did not get their proper recognition or representation in media. The Golden Girls was revolutionary when it aired in the late 80s and early 90s.
With Sex And The City in the early 2000s, women enjoyed seeing characters they could identify with on screen. These women were sexy and single and—gasp—older than 25. While men and sex were important to them, it was their friendship that gave them their strength. These women didn’t define themselves as wives and mothers. They had apartments, careers and active sex lives. They lived like men in many ways, but kept their femininity. It was revolutionary when it first aired.
The women of Sex and The City were originally in their late 30s, but now they are now in their mid 50s. They are the same age as Dorothy and Blanche in The Golden Girls, but they sure as don’t look like them. The actresses who portray them have had plastic surgery and/or other procedures done. They don’t look like older women. Only Miranda sports traditionally white or gray hair. Carrie keeps her blond locks and only wears glasses occasionally. Charlotte still has a full head of luscious brunette hair. They wear the latest fashions and are still fiercely independent. Essentially, the gals of Sex And The City are merely slightly older versions of themselves. They haven’t changed their looks or behavior despite the fact that twenty years have passed since we first fell in love with them.
While, I like the fact that society no longer views middle aged women as disposable or replaceable, I still take issue with the struggle to still look young. Most plastic surgery just looks like work has been done. Charlotte is a prime example of this. Plastic Surgery just makes the person look like they’ve had plastic surgery. It doesn’t really make them look younger. It is wonderful to not have to modify our fashion or sense fun as we age, but we should also recognize that looking our age is not a bad thing. Society needs to embrace the aging process instead of pretending it doesn’t exist.
The good news is that women have come a long way in 35 years. The bad news is that we still have a ways to go. Despite the fact the gals of The Golden Girls looked old, I love their honest and witty conversations. These are women who have led full lives and well-round individuals. They aren’t just representations of what some man thought or felt women should be like. That honesty and wit is something I love about Sex and The City as well.
And Just Like That, the reboot of Sex and The City, is missing this witty dialog. It is still honest, but it is not as well written as the original Sex and The City series. I still like catching up with my favorite characters and seeing how their lives continued even if the show isn’t as good as the original. It proves that life doesn’t end at 30 or 40 or even 50. It just continues to evolve and change. Largely, the sadder tone of the reboot has to do with the times we live in—not sadness of aging. It is difficult to write with the same lighthearted touch that went into the original given all that has happened in the world over the past few years. If the reboot happened a few years ago, I am sure the tone would have been much different.