Can’t Even: How Millennials Became The Burnout Generation

Can’t Even: How Millennials Became The Burnout Generations

By Anne Helen Peterson, 2020

Chapter 1: Our Burnt Out Parents

Grandparents and Parents are the very reason we expected more out of our lives and careers. Boomers were unaware of how easy they had it. They lived in a time of unions and a growing middle class.

Read Barbara Ehenrich’s book Fear of Falling: The Inner Life of the Middle Class. She talks about how if you are born poor, you will die poor. Most likely if you are born rich, you will also die rich. It is uniquely the Middle Class who could move either to Upper Class or Lower Class. Obviously, they hope to move up in the world, but there is a very real fear of losing their Middle Class Status and dying Poor.

The GI Bill offered college to people who no longer the Elite or the Rich. Now college could be for the average person. Yuppies label in the 80s was a play on the world Hippie or Yippie from the 60s. In the 80s College was seen as a pragmatic way to make more money. During the 80s and 90s English Majors numbers dropped, but Business Majors more than doubled.

Chapter 2: Growing Mini-Adults

Parents these days over schedule their children. They enroll them in all kinds of sports activities and AP Classes. Helicopter Parenting is the label given to parents who hover over their kids constantly in order to ensure their future success. College became a must in the late 80s and early 90s. Now nearly 70% of High School Graduates go to College. And 90% of Students Graduate High School! Instead of a College Degree, now you need a Graduate Degree to get ahead. It was only the lower income parents who allowed their children more freedom. The kids were “free range” and able to indulge in creativity.

Chapter 3: College At Any Cost

Up until WWII College was only for Upper Class White Males. (Now, it is predominately Females!) Millennials are so focused on succeeding in High School and College, that Social Lives and Relationships are often delayed. They were forced to be perfectionists and the result was largely unhappy young adults. Then, once they graduated, they were disappointed to find that there were no jobs or, at least, no jobs in their chosen fields. And on top of all that, crippling Student Loan Debt!

Chapter 4: Do What You Love and You Will Still Work Every Day For The Rest of Your Life

There is a prevailing myth we hear over and over. We hear, “If it is your passion, it shouldn’t feel like work.” Sadly, fun jobs or creative jobs often don’t pay well or don’t offer benefits. Often the creative jobs offer only low paying entry-level jobs or even unpaid internships.

Miya Tokumitsu is the author of the book “Do What You Love And Other Lies About Success and Happiness.” She talks about how the prevailing attitude is that if you work hard that you will be successful and happy, but that isn’t true at all. This sense of entitlement we learn from society leads us to believe something must be wrong with us if we can’t succeed. It places the blame on the individual and not on society or the fact there may be NO opportunities available.

Chapter 5: How Work Got So Shitty

Once Upon A Time you could get a good paying job and keep it for your whole life, but that isn’t true any more. Employers often rely on Temp Agencies, which don’t offer the benefits of unions or medical insurance. A lot of big corporations use Temp Agencies to do everything from cleaning to book keeping. Why? Because it saves the company money to do so. But Capitalism isn’t Benevolent on its own. Regulation and Unions were needed to keep Companies honest and fair, but then anti-union legislation was passed and deregulation increased. Eventually, there was really very little protection for Employees.

Chapter 6: How Work Stayed So Shitty

So, Generations X and The Millennial entered the work force and were chronically overworked and underpaid. Only the Elite who were rich and went to Ivy League Schools were able to get ahead. The average employee was subject to increased regulation with the advent of computers and cameras. The idea of the open office might seem better than a cramped cubicle, but studies have shown that open areas actually decrease productivity. The climate has changed to a “Gig” economy. That means a single person needs multiple jobs in order to pay bills or just get by,

Chapter 7: What Is A Weekend?

The 90s saw a ton of downsizing and outsourcing labor. In order to save money, companies have laid off large amounts of people. This leaves the employees who are still at work to be overloaded. They have to take up the slack for the lack of staff and often do the work of 2 or 3 people. Workers with jobs get burnt out.

Chapter 8: What Is Free Time?

Free Time Is Exhausting. Even as adults, we are expected to fill our time with activities. We are expected to take Yoga or Pilates and get together with our friends and go to restaurants. We are supposed to be caught up on TV, Podcasts, NPR or the latest Movies. There are a ton of social obligations on top of work, which is already exhausting.

Chapter 9: Exhausted Millennial Parents

There is a reason more and more Millennials have put off getting married, buying a house and having kids. It just isn’t financially feasible. But there are those who have taken the plunge. Now the Millennials have become parents themselves and we are expected to work, stay in shape, keep up social obligations and take care of our kids. Society tells we can have it all, but something always suffers. Either our work suffers or our marriage suffers or our time with our kids suffers or our relationship with friends suffers. There is no way to make everyone happy.

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Diary Entry Titles For 2022

2022 Diary Entry Titles

January 15, 2022 Stormbringer

January 30, 2022 Flare-Up

February 15, 2022 Dollface

February 28, 2022 Management

March 15, 2022 Hopeful

March 31, 2022 High Pressure

April 20, 2022 Quanta

May 3, 2022 Book of Two Ways

May 17, 2022 No Way Home

May 31, 2022 Upside Down

June 12, 2022 Lie To Me

June 21, 2022 Breakaway

July 10, 2022 Adulting

July 29, 2022 Aestivation

August 14, 2022 Menagerie

September 8, 2022 Love and Thunder

September 25, 2022 Powerhouse

October 15, 2022 Dragonwatch

October 31, 2022 Fire and Blood

November 17, 2022 Dead To Me

December 15, 2022 We Don’t Talk About Pluto

December 25, 2022 The Season Is Upon Us

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Streaming List 2022

Streaming 2022


Mix Tape

Joan Didion: The Center Will Not Hold

Kid Cosmic S3

Vikings Valhalla S1

The Adam Project (2022)

Bridgerton Season 2

The Russian Doll S2

Bullshit The Game Show

Heartstoppers S1

Stranger Things S4

The Gentleman (2019)

Umbrella Academy S3

The Grayman (2022)

Persuasion (2022)

The Sandman (Neil Gaiman)

Uncharted (2022)

Locke and Key S3

Never Have I Ever S1-S3

Cat Documentary

The Devil in Ohio (Limited Series)

Iliza Schlesinger: Hot Forever Comedy Special

Blade of the 49 Ronin (Ana Akana Martial Arts Movie)

The Dragon Prince S3

Enola Holmes 1 and 2

School of Good and Evil

Wednesday Addams Series S1

A Christmas Story Christmas (2022 Sequel to 1983 Original)

Trevor Noah Special: I Wish You Would 2022

Trevor Noah Special: Son of Patricia 2018

Where The Crawdads Sing (2022)


The Bullet Train

Firefly Lane S2

1899 (Netflix Supernatural Series)

Shameless S1-S6

Emily In Paris S1

The Witcher: Blood Origins

Bad Moms Christmas

Knives Out: Glass Onion


The Golden Girls S1-S2

How I Met Your Mother Complete Series

How I Met Your Father S1

Home Economics S2 and S3

Call Me Kat S2 and S3

The Connors S4 and S5

The Goldbergs S9 and S10

A Million Little Things S4

Dollface Season 2

You Again

A Nice Girl Like You

The Thing About Pam (Murder)

Endgame S1

Firefly Complete Series

Mom Complete Series

The Mayans S3

The Devil Wears Prada

Definitely, Maybe

Pivoting S1

Lie To Me

You’re The Worst

Malcolm in the Middle

The Princess (Kickass)

Maggie S1 (Psychic)

Bear S1 (Chicago Chef)

Reservation Dogs S1

Killing Eve S4

Lost S1-S6

Prey (Predator Series) (2022)

Bones Complete Series

Rosalind (Shakespeare) (2022)

The Fosters Complete Series

Switched At Birth Complete Series

12 Days of Christmas Movie (MP)

Saved By The Bell: The Unauthorized Story

Disney +


The Eternals

The Book of Bobba Fett

Free Guy

Turning Red

The Moon Knight

Attack of the Clones

Obi Wan

Owl House S2

Dr. Strange

Ms Marvel S1



Thor Ragnarok

Thor Love and Thunder

Buzz Lightyear

Andor S1

She-Hulk: Attorney At Law S1

Disenchanted Movie (Sequel To Enchanted 2007)

Willow Sequel Series S1


Fringe Complete Series

Alias Complete Series

Jack Ryan S1-S3

Jack Reacher S1

The Honest Thief

The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel S1-S4


Who’s The Boss? S1

Covert Affairs

No Time To Die (James Bond)

Marry Me

The Summer I Turned Pretty S1

Lost City (2022)

The Rings of Power (LOTR Prequel)

Catherine Called Birdy (2022)

The Northman (2022)

Jack Ryan Season 4


Friends S1-S3

The Middle Complete Series

The Big Bang Theory Complete Series (X3)

The Mentalist S1 and S2

And Just Like That

Euphoria S1 and S2

The Last Duel

Cry Macho

Free Guy

Death On The Nile (2022)

The Batman (2022)

Flight Attendant S2

Fantastic Beasts: Secrets of Dumbledore (2022)

The Matrix: Resurrections (2021)

Young Sheldon Complete Series

Westworld S4

Belfast (Kenneth)

Belle (Japanese Anime Beauty and the Beast Virtual Reality)

House of the Dragon (Game of Throne Prequel)

Game of Thrones S1-S8

The League of Super Pets

His Dark Materials S2 and S3

Fixer Upper: The Castle

Harry Potter and The Prisoner of Azkaban

Dr. Who (Matt Smith Season)


Heroes S1

Saved By The Bell Reboot S1

Saved By The Bell Original

The Office S1

Yellowstone Episode 1


Legacies S4

Lost Girl Complete Series


Charmed S4

Kung Fu S1


The United States of AL S2

Young Sheldon S4 and S5

CSI: Vegas S1

Ghosts S1 and S2


Quantum Leap Reboot Episode 1 Only


2 Broke Girls Complete Series

Killing Eve (One Episode)

Weeds Complete Series

Fix (Drug Documentary)

Hell On Wheels S1

Weird Al: Weird Al Yankovich Story (Satiric Biopic)

Freevee (Formally IMDB-TV)

One Day At A Time (70s/80s) (A Few Episodes)

Discovery +

Mythbusters (3 Episodes for Free)

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White Wolf By Ray Fryling

Ray Fryling started his Etsy Store in 2021. He explained, “I spent the first half my adult life in the army infantry. I spent the second half, to date, in a variety of careers and job positions. In 2019, I retired on disability due to my PTSD. Creating art and finding quality vintage and antique items (and restoring them) is how I cope with my PTSD. The act of creating is therapeutic.

He began by creating inspirational sayings on plagues. “Brother Is More Than A Word” is one of his favorites. “Trust But Verify” is another. Additionally, there is “Master Yourself or Be Mastered” and “Respect Is Earned.” Ray also produced longer pieces with quotes from his favorite book The Richest Man in Babylon.(Five Law of Gold and Seven Cures For A Lean Purse) Eventually, he moved onto more detailed works of art like a Homestead, a Castle and a Viking Longboat. These pieces were posted on Etsy first, but these were niche items.

Then Ray began working on other projects, such as refinishing an end table/magazine stand and putting together and refinishing a chair. Ray even created beautiful wooden storage boxes for friends. A project near and dear to his heart was the old rocking horse he fixed up for his grandchildren. Another passion of his is making wooden handles for knives and swords. Ray has even begun making leather sheaths.

Somewhere along the way, Ray began collecting a menagerie of items for resale. He found these collectables in a variety of places; including, yard sales and thrift stores. He liked finding salt and pepper shakers in different shapes and sizes. Brass, Bronze and Copper items always catch his eye. Tins and Cigar Boxes were also of interest to him. He purchased collectable plates and silverware too. These were listed on Etsy under the category of Menagerie. So far, he has made a number of sales and hope to continue building his costumer base.

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The Big Bang Observation

The Big Bang Observation

The Big Bang Theory ran on CBS from 2007 to 2019. Admittedly, I didn’t watch the first couple of seasons. I began watching it around 2014. When it went into syndication, I began watching the reruns on TBS. When I went down to the very basic cable package in 2020, the only thing I really missed were those reruns. I bought the series on DVD and began watching it from beginning to end. Eventually, I got HBO Max and was able to stream it as well.

Having watched it a ton of times, I have a number of things that I have observed about the show and its characters. First, some random things. Why do Leonard and Penny’s apartments have doorbells but no one uses them? And why do they have a card catalog in the apartment? Is there anything in the drawers or is it empty? Did Leonard put the old fuse holder on the wooden pillar? And what purpose does it serve, if any? And the set up of the apartments make no sense. Apartments tend to fold in on themselves to make the best use of space, but the apartments in the show are all spread out. Despite some of the lingering questions I have about the décore, I do love the bright colors they use to decorate the apartments.

Now, I want to address so-called “Nerd Culture.” While the writers do seem to have an affinity for things like Dungeons and Dragons, Comic Books, Star Trek and Star Wars, they also make fun of the characters for having a passion for these same things. Real life “nerds” have complained that the writing often portrays them in an unflattering light. I can see why someone might take offense to some of jokes, but I don’t feel the comedy was meant to be malicious. I think a lot of the problems stem from Anti-Intellectual streak that runs through the US. If the writer’s merely praised the those who were incredibly intelligent, the show would not have had such a broad appeal. If the characters were without flaws, no one would have liked them. The have to make the characters socially awkward to make them more relatable or likable.

Sheldon Cooper

Sheldon Cooper is, without a doubt, on the autism spectrum. I am not sure why they never actually addressed it. Perhaps they didn’t intend to write him that way, but once they did, they decided not to call attention to it. If they had labeled Sheldon as such, they would have received a great deal of criticism for how the portrayed someone with autism. They couldn’t poke fun at Sheldon’s quirks if they admitted those quirks grew out of the fact he was neurodivergent.

While I have read about Sheldon having Asperger’s Syndrome, I haven’t noticed anything mentioned about Leonard’s Mother Beverly. Her cold and detached parenting style screams autism. The reason Sheldon and Beverly get along so well, is that they are both neurodivergent. It also makes sense that Leonard gets stuck with Sheldon as a roommate because of his “mommy” issues. Leonard tolerates Sheldon because he had tolerate his mother growing up. Sheldon slowly starts to stand up for himself and resolve some of his issues through his relationship with his his friend and roommate over the 12 year run of the show. We see Leonard get to the point where he can marry Penny and live with her instead of the infuriating Sheldon. Sheldon is still a huge part of his life and still lives across the hall, but the two of them are no longer working out their issues together.

Howard’s relationship with his mother is quite troubling. They tend to make fun of their unhealthy closeness, but what they never address is how mean Howard is to her. She yells at him from across the house and he angrily snaps back at her. Although her love may feel smothering, the level of resentment Howard demonstrates is disturbing. And Mrs. Wolowitz just takes it. She deserves more respect than that. It just makes me sad to see how Howard treats her.


He doesn’t always treat Bernadette great either, but she has a mean streak and fights back. Their relationship had some unhealthy undercurrents, but luckily they seemed to work on their relationship and ultimately come to a healthy and happy place together.

The writer’s have often used homosexuality and bisexuality as a cause for comedy, but never really addressed the issues seriously. I really would have liked to Raj date a guy even if it wasn’t Howard. He keeps claiming he isn’t and maybe he isn’t gay in the strictest sense. Raj is probably bisexual, but the writers never thought to explore that intelligently. The writers also made quite a few references to Amy’s crush on Penny, but it was never addressed either. Amy went from asexual to bisexual quickly and without ceremony. Again, it was played for laughs, but it should have been explored further.

Another thing that gets overlooked is just how abusive Amy’s mother was. Amy’s mother wasn’t just odd or a “ball-buster.” She was controlling over Amy and incredibly uncomfortable with any hint that her daughter was a sexual being. Amy awkwardness and outsider status was due largely to her mother isolating her from corruptible influences. Although Amy’s Mom wasn’t labeled overly religious, we get the feeling religion was a part of her reason for controlling Amy. Sheldon’s mother wasn’t abusive, but she was very religious. Amy and Sheldon both became scientists and atheists, at least in part due to their religious upbringings. I would think this element of their childhoods is part of why they connected in the first place.

Young Sheldon

The show Young Sheldon explores Sheldon’s childhood in Texas. I thought they did a great job in casting a younger version of his Mom. She looked a lot like Laurie Metcalf, who played Mary Cooper in The Big Bang Theory. They I found out that the young Mary Cooper is played by Zoey Perry, who is the daughter of Laurie Metcalf! No wonder they looked so much alike!

Overall, I have enjoyed the prequel to The Big Bang Theory,: however, I couldn’t help but notice George Cooper’s alcoholism is played down in the spin-off. Sheldon’s recollections in the original series paint a childhood filled with drama. I imagine the writer’s didn’t want us to hate George Senior, so they toned down his bad behavior when they started writing the new show. One could also argue that Sheldon made things sound worse than they really were. Despite being toned down, the basic outline of events remains true, which is nice. It would have driven me crazy if they kept Sheldon’s parents together or changed some other part of the narrative we would already given in the original show.

People either seem to love or hate The Big Bang Theory. While I consider myself a fan, I do see flaws in the show. There are many funny moments, but some jokes do fall flat. The jokes that fall flat are jokes that rely too heavily on stereotypes or try to over simplify things too much. There are some serious moments that are moving, but overall tone of the show is light. Comedy is supposed to be light, but some serious moments are necessary to keep it real. The trick is finding the right balance. Sometimes The Big Bang Theory succeeds in keeping this balance and other times it doesn’t.

Despite these issues, I love The Big Bang Theory anyway. I have come to feel like I know the characters. They are familiar and relatable. They grew and changed over 12 Seasons and I have come to see them as friends. Watching the show is comforting.

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2 (Not So) Broke Girls

Caroline and Max

2 (Not So) Broke Girls

The TV Show 2 Broke Girls ran from 2011 to 2017 on CBS. It is a still a very polarizing show. People either love it or hate it. I, for one, enjoyed it. I know it isn’t particularly well-written and it often feels more like a guilty pleasure than anything. It is a flawed show, for sure, but it is fun.

The first season of the show showed what it was like to live in poverty. Max went to the laundromat and shopped at a thrift store. Honestly, I could relate. Very few shows depict people in poverty. It is frustrating to watch Middle Class and Rich people all the time. I think it would be nice to have their easy life and face relatively minor conflicts. To those of us who struggle, the Middle Class life doesn’t feel realistic.

I loved Max with her bigger than life personality. I also loved her big boobs and her smart mouth. Max had a terrible childhood, which made her a complicated person. She came across tough as nails, but her tough exterior was just covering up her softer side. Caroline could be annoying, and often shallow, but she balanced Max out. They worked well together as a team and their friendship was inspiring. And I love how everyone at the diner became one big family. They were really there for each other.

Some people were put off by all the dirty jokes. I didn’t mind most of them. Occasionally, they took things too far—like when they made rape jokes. Sex is can be quite amusing, but rape is never funny. Luckily, they stopped using those jokes in the second season.

The other complaint about the show was that it relied on stereotypes, and it often did. Although the jokes that relied on stereotypes fell flat and got old, the writers didn’t appear to harbor any real bias or hatred. It was supposed to be all in good fun. The problem, I believe, lies trying to write an old fashioned comedy in the modern age. Comedy movies and shows have always relied on stereotypes for a large portion of their jokes, but times have changed and writers need to change along with it.

Representation is something that is important. Shows like Girls and Sex And The City have been criticized for being white-washed. 2 Broke Girls is ultimately about two white women, but the supporting cast is diverse at least. We have an Asian restaurant owner in Han. Earl the cashier is black. Sophie is Polish and Oleg is Ukrainian. They have also had various gay and lesbian supporting characters as well. And unlike the reboot of Sex and The City (And Just Like That) the representation in 2 Broke Girls doesn’t feel forced.

My biggest personal gripe is that they abandoned the whole poverty angle. The focus becomes the Cupcake Business in its various incarnations. While I wanted them to succeed, I missed the references to daily struggles of living in the lower class. Stealing napkins from Starbucks when they couldn’t afford toilet paper kept it real. I wasn’t impressed when they went all Hollywood in the last couple of Seasons. The whole premise of the two girls being broke was undermined when they became successful. The show should have stopped there, but they drug it out for another season or so.

If you are looking for something revolutionary or deep, you won’t find it in 2 Broke Girls. But if you want a pleasant distraction, it is worth checking out. And if you are a fan of Beth Behr, you can check out her new show on CBS The Neighborhood. Or if you are a Kat Dennings fan, you watch Dollface on Hulu.

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The Ennui of Euphoria

The Ennui of Euphoria

Euphoria is 2019 HBO show. I had heard of it, but didn’t know much about it. Finally, I clicked on it on HBO Max and found myself hooked. It is graphic and gritty, but strangely addictive. The characters are compelling and you grow to care about them. That is why this dark and depressing tale of teenage angst is not only watchable, but inherently bingeable.

Teenagers that drink and do drugs isn’t exactly a new concept. Much of the ground has already been covered. What is revolutionary about it is its representation of the LGBTQ community. The central character, Rue, is involved in a relationship with the Transgender woman Jules. Other male characters in the series are struggling with their latent homosexuality as well.

Female nudity has long been a staple of Cable TV, but this show tends toward more male nudity. While I am all for equal rights, I must say I am unimpressed. I thought it would exciting to finally see more male skin, it turns out that it makes the show feel less titillating overall. Once the shock value wears off, you see the sad subtext of male dominance and violence in everyday life.

One thing that jumped out at me while watching the series is how stylized it is. The lighting is always dark or unnatural in some way. Most of the action takes place at night and in the shadows. The scenes are often lit by green or red lights or some color that makes it feel surreal. Sometimes the light adds a fuzzy or blurry effect to the scene, which makes the viewer feel a bit drunk or high.

Although the show takes place in the present day, there are a lot of call backs to the 1970s and 1980s. There are plenty of smart phones and laptops in the show, but the houses look like they have not been renovated at all. These lower middle class families exist in a world that forty or fifty years behind the sleek modern world. There is a lot wood paneling and dark wood cabinets. Brown, orange and mustard yellow are a large part of the color pallet, and those feel like definite stylistic choices.

The make-up is modern day, but it too calls us back to the 1970s and 1980s. The glittery eye shadow and low cut tops are glamorous touches. While the overall trend in the 2020s has been more modest, we get a glimpse into flashy world of fashion. We see the tight dresses and long nails that belong in the world of “Real Housewives” and “Claws.” These popular party girls are always over the top and take things to the extreme.

Oddly, Rue is the one character who dresses down. She rarely wears make-up and is often in an over-sized T-shirt and jeans. She is skinny with a head of dark and wild hair. She isn’t slick or shiny like all the girls around her. Rue is plain. She is a wallflower who gets to observe the crazy drama unfolding around her. She is the narrator—the author of some crazy documentary or drama.

I love how they actually made Lexi have her own reality show on E. They parody the unscripted dramas and bring attention to their artificial natures. The fake TV show barely scratches the surface of the darkness that exists within this generation. Rue rarely references the show, but it pops up every so often to make the audience realize the adults and everyone around them are completely clueless.

The Netflix show 13 Reasons was the first capture the collective trauma of living in this modern society. Euphoria takes it a step further. Instead of trying to open a dialog, like 13 Reasons, Euphoria seeks to sensationalize and push boundaries. It seeks to portray without preaching. Euphoria is inviting us into the dark world of drugs and doesn’t apologize for being melodramatic or morose.

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And Just Like That

And Just Like That

And Just LIke That

And Just Like That the gals from Sex And The City have turned into The Golden Girls! Given all the differences between being 55 in 1985 and being 55 in 2022, perhaps we should call Carrie, Charlotte and Miranda The Silver Girls. Lol.

I’ve been watching reruns of The Golden Girls on Hulu and keeping up with the Sex And The City Reboot on HBO Max. Granted, the reboot is not as good as the original series, but it does provide some fascinating insights into aging in the 2020s.

In the late 1980s Blanche, Dorthy and Rose were in a new phase of their lives. After her husband died, Blanche needed roommates. Enter Dorothy and Rose. Dorthy was divorced and Rose was widowed. All three of them had children who were grown and out on their own. Some of their kids even had kids of their own. These Middle Aged women found friendship in each other in a time that would have otherwise been lonely for them.

In the 2020s Carrie has been widowed, but she is fine with living alone. She has the financial Independence to have her own apartment. Once Big bites the big one, she sells her old apartments and gets a brand new apartment.

Miranda is married and has nearly grown son who still lives with her. Like Miranda, Charlotte started her family later in life. She is still married and the mother of two teenagers. She is in the role that traditionally would have been filled by someone in their 30s. But in the past 30 some years, women have been able to put off childbearing. Science and society has given women more options over the years.

And the fashion! The Golden Girls dressed fashionably. But their fashion was always a downplayed version of what younger people were wearing. Clothes for women in their 40s, 50s and 60s were more modest. Although they were allowed to look pretty, they were not allowed to look youthful and sexy.

While The Golden Girls were still limited by the society they lived in, they were at least being acknowledged. Since Television began, women and middle aged people have largely been ignored. They did not get their proper recognition or representation in media. The Golden Girls was revolutionary when it aired in the late 80s and early 90s.

With Sex And The City in the early 2000s, women enjoyed seeing characters they could identify with on screen. These women were sexy and single and—gasp—older than 25. While men and sex were important to them, it was their friendship that gave them their strength. These women didn’t define themselves as wives and mothers. They had apartments, careers and active sex lives. They lived like men in many ways, but kept their femininity. It was revolutionary when it first aired.

The women of Sex and The City were originally in their late 30s, but now they are now in their mid 50s. They are the same age as Dorothy and Blanche in The Golden Girls, but they sure as don’t look like them. The actresses who portray them have had plastic surgery and/or other procedures done. They don’t look like older women. Only Miranda sports traditionally white or gray hair. Carrie keeps her blond locks and only wears glasses occasionally. Charlotte still has a full head of luscious brunette hair. They wear the latest fashions and are still fiercely independent. Essentially, the gals of Sex And The City are merely slightly older versions of themselves. They haven’t changed their looks or behavior despite the fact that twenty years have passed since we first fell in love with them.

While, I like the fact that society no longer views middle aged women as disposable or replaceable, I still take issue with the struggle to still look young. Most plastic surgery just looks like work has been done. Charlotte is a prime example of this. Plastic Surgery just makes the person look like they’ve had plastic surgery. It doesn’t really make them look younger. It is wonderful to not have to modify our fashion or sense fun as we age, but we should also recognize that looking our age is not a bad thing. Society needs to embrace the aging process instead of pretending it doesn’t exist.

The good news is that women have come a long way in 35 years. The bad news is that we still have a ways to go. Despite the fact the gals of The Golden Girls looked old, I love their honest and witty conversations. These are women who have led full lives and well-round individuals. They aren’t just representations of what some man thought or felt women should be like. That honesty and wit is something I love about Sex and The City as well.

And Just Like That, the reboot of Sex and The City, is missing this witty dialog. It is still honest, but it is not as well written as the original Sex and The City series. I still like catching up with my favorite characters and seeing how their lives continued even if the show isn’t as good as the original. It proves that life doesn’t end at 30 or 40 or even 50. It just continues to evolve and change. Largely, the sadder tone of the reboot has to do with the times we live in—not sadness of aging. It is difficult to write with the same lighthearted touch that went into the original given all that has happened in the world over the past few years. If the reboot happened a few years ago, I am sure the tone would have been much different.

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Diary Titles 2021

January 1, 2021 Surreal

January 15, 2021 AI

January 28, 2021 Red Angel

February 14, 2021 Heroine’s Quest

February 28, 2021 Anti-Hero

March 14, 2021 Fiery Cross

March 16, 2021 Hireth

April 10, 2021 News of The World

April 27, 2021 Mystery Box

May 14, 2021 Parle Vous Francias

May 31, 2021 Transitions

June 12, 2021 Marauders

June 27, 2021 Dark Horse

July 4, 2021 Firework

July 15, 2021 Marvel

July 31, 2021 A Million Little Things

August 12, 2021 Still Breathing

August 25, 2021 Legacies

September 6, 2021 911

September 24, 2021 Shrill

October 12, 2021 Blackbirds

November 2, 2021 Dragonfest

November 19. 2021 Infinity Train

December 6, 2021 Arcane

December 18, 2021 The Wheel of Time

December 30, 2021 Colorado Springs

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The Vampire Diaries Postmortem

Vampire Diaries: A Postmortem

It is Halloween month and so I decided to re-watch all 8 Seasons of The Vampire Diaries (2009-2017). I read the books back in 1991 and 1992 when they came out and was excited to see a series based on them. It didn’t take long to realize that the series was going to become its own entity. It used the same characters, but changed the plot quite a bit.

Each Season had its own arch or theme, while the love triangle between Elena, Stefan and Damon played itself out through the whole of the series. The last two seasons focused more on the relationship between the brothers Salvatore since Nina Dobrev left before the end of the series.

Season 1 was all about Vampires. I enjoyed the initial meeting of the characters. Although I was upset at first that Elena wasn’t blond and that Caroline was more of a friend than an enemy, I grew to love them. Despite the show not meeting my expectations, I liked series overall. Instead of keeping Katherine and Klaus as part of the surprise ending, they introduced them early on. Then they created the Tomb Vampires to keep Stefan and Damon busy. There were no tomb vampires in the books. They are filler material. I kept waiting for them to introduce Meredith Fell and her ancestor Honoria Fell. Eventually, they made Meredith a doctor and Alaric’s love interest in Season 3, but they never mentioned Honoria.

Season 2 was all about Werewolves. In the climax of the books, we find out Tyler Lockwood is a Werewolf, as are a number of other residence of Fells Church, Virginia. In Mystic Falls, we are introduced to Mason Lockwood and find out about the all-powerful moonstone. While Klaus did use Caroline and Tyler to do his dirty work in the books, there was nothing about him wanting to break a curse using a moonstone. While I liked that they traded Elena’s little sister for a teenage brother named Jeremy and I liked Jenna, I did not like Isobel and Jonathan. Why did they feel a need to make Elena adopted? And why did her real Mom have to be a narcissistic vampire who abandoned her? What is up with all the shitty mothers in the series?

Season 3 was all about The Originals. The focus is on Klaus, his family and the creation of Hybrids. Hybrids are a combination of Werewolf and Vampire in a single person, like Klaus. We know little about Klaus from the books, except he was the one who turned Katherine and that he was an original. In the TV show we get a huge backstory and lots of siblings for our bad guy, which is cool. Only it turns out, Klaus is more of an anti-hero than a villain. And this is the Season we see Stefan’s history as a Ripper. I guess they needed to make him less of a one dimensional good guy. Oh, and Elena finally becomes a Vampire, like she does in the books.

Season 4 was all about Doppelgangers. Although I found this season a bit convoluted, I did enjoy the back story of the Doppelgangers. The story of Silas and Amara added depth to the overall mythology. I was surprised that they put Damon and Elena together, but with 8 long Seasons it was bound to happen. I held out hope she’d realize what she’d lost in Stefan. They also introduced the idea of The Hunters into the story, which I was not crazy about. I get Jeremy needed a hobby, but Vampire Hunter? Really?And how did it take 4 years for Elena and the gang to go through 2 years of High School? How did they even pass when they stopped attending classes on a regular basis at the beginning of the series?

Season 5 was all about Katherine and The Travelers. This was one of my least favorite seasons. It had nothing to do with the original series at all. Elena and the Gang go to college. There is this whole plot line about Whitmore’s experimenting on Vampires and torturing Damon. Then there are the Travelers. Body Jumpers can be found in various mythologies, but it seemed detached from the rest of the series. I was also so over Katherine and her ways. While I liked the introduction of her daughter, I didn’t like Katherine jumping into Elena. I wondered if they were inspired by The Return book by LJ Smith, published in 2009. If so, why didn’t they follow the books more closely?

Season 6 was all about The Gemini Coven. We were introduced to a new witch named Liv and her twin named Luke in Season 5. Later, we are introduced to Jo and her psycho twin Kai, short of Malachi. Kai is truly a frightening villain who relishes in making everyone suffer. There is this whole prison world thing, which felt a little too much like Ground Hog Day. The Twin Merging thing was weird. The presence of Lilly Salvatore felt forced. However, the wedding at the end shocked me and moved me to tears. I felt so bad for Alaric and everyone who died at Kai’s hands. Re-watching it, I kept screaming at everyone not to trust Kai. They should have just killed him ASAP.

Season 7 was all about The Heretics and Rayna/The Armory. They really should have ended the series in either Season 4 or Season 6, but no. They drug it out two more seasons and I kept watching. The bad guys are the Heretics for half the season and then it is just Julian and then it is Rayna. The Heretics are Witch-Vampire Hybrids, which weren’t supposed to exist. And Caroline is pregnant with Jo and Alaric’s twins? It was a creative way to write Candace King’s pregnancy into the script, but I wasn’t sure I bought it. When the twins make their appearance, I saw their importance in furthering the story. I warmed up to them eventually. Later, they would be essential to the spin-off Legacies. Anyway, I was incredibly bored with the whole Rayna and Armory plotline. I didn’t like Bonnie and Enzo as a couple. I just couldn’t grow to love Enzo as much as I’d grown to love Damon or even Klaus. They tried to soften him, but it felt forced. Did I mention I hated the time jumps? Yeah, the whole Season was a huge mess!

Season 8 was all about The Siren and tying up loose endings. I hated the Siren plot. It reminded me too much of True Blood and it just pained me to see Damon and Enzo suffer so much. I liked that they involved the twins into the plot though. I didn’t like that Stefan ended up with Caroline and Damon ended up with Elena. That is not how I saw the books going. I recognize that Damon and Elena had better chemistry on the show, but I fell in love with Stefan from the books and saw him getting his happy ending. It made me sad to see him die, even it was for the greater good. The very end of the series showing the characters reuniting in the afterlife reminded me of Lost. The last episode did move me even if I didn’t agree with how they ended everyone’s stories.

Overall, I liked the Supernatural Teen Soap. I was pleased that the show was more Urban Fantasy than its Gothic Grandfather Dark Shadows. It made it more relatable. The writers were good with redemption arcs and I like how they used the idea of a humanity switch. Most people are neither completely good nor completely evil. Bad people do good things and good people do bad things. The writers also had the task of making us like vampires—aka serial killers. For the most part, they were able to make the characters sympathetic. But above all else, the writers had killer taste in music. Even when the Season sucked, I loved the music. I often used the songs from the show in my own compilation mixes.

Some Favorite Songs From the Series: Obsession, Sleep Alone, Cut, A Girl Like Me, Youth Knows No Pain, Love Is Just Another Way To Die, Dance Me To The End of Love, Love Don’t Die, Come With Me Now, Do I Wanna Know, Up in Flames, Radioactive, This World, Hypnotic and many others!

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